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Douche Move?

Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by lotso-bear, Apr 10, 2016.

  1. lotso-bear

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    Have to fly out for a bachelor party over Memorial Day weekend. Airfare is $800+ from my hometown which is ridiculous. Might spend a minimum of $1,500 that weekend.

    Have to fly back out for the wedding a week later. Airfare is $470ish which is more reasonable than before. No hotels required but have to get a tux (wedding party), gift, etc. Might spend a minimum of $1,000 that weekend.

    Would it be a douche move if I (groomsman) skip the bachelor party and only attend the wedding? I can't stomach the thought of spending $2.5K for my friend's wedding. Would love to use my miles for my airfare to attend the bachelor party but since it's a holiday weekend that isn't possible unless I use a ridiculous amount...Sadly, I didn't learn my lesson after being a groomsmen for another wedding.
     
  2. jonnyvegas

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    Does your buddy live in Vegas? It seems a bit much to ask people to fly out twice in a month. I got married there and being from the east coast, I was thrilled whoever made it out. I didn't hold it against them. My bachelor party was semi locally in AC.
     
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    Midwest. Both events are in the Midwest while I'm located in West Coast.
     
  4. jonnyvegas

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    I misunderstood. Thought it was all happening in Vegas.
    Unless you have other connections to the random midwest city, hell no. Not a douche move at all skipping bachelor party.
     
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    I would say that if you are a close enough friend to be in the wedding party, you should attend both events, and just suck up the cost as the price of friendship
     
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    Yeah if you're not in town just flying in for the wedding is more than enough.
     
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    I was in this situation when I got married a few months ago. One of my groomsman only came to the wedding (in Boston, he came from England) and not the bachelor party and I didn't feel like he had been a douche at all. If the groom gets bent out of shape over it consider it a bullet dodged. Unless of course that you're so rich that there isn't any excuse not to spend the money.
     
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    For me it's a matter of afford versus cheapness. I hate to say that I am agreeing with wigwam that if you have the cash to spend and it won't have an effect then go. If it strains things financially then don't. If this person is a true friend and assuming they are if you're in their wedding party, then they would understand.

    I will say this though. I've been to a few bachelor parties in Vegas, including my own (22 person, gong show of a weekend) and you can't put a price on the memories built among friends. As they said on the hangover to a night we will never remember, but the four of us will never forget.
     
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    I hate destination weddings for just this reason...the bachelor party is supposed to be the night before
    so when they ask you to say I Do?...you're too hungover to say no
     
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